November 7, 2020. Today is my 38th birthday. Today is my 5th wedding anniversary.
I have learned much about love in the last few years of life. I’d like to take you on my journey, in part.
When I was single and dateless, love eluded me. I thought love was evasive.
When I started dating seriously, love flowed around me. I thought love was effortless.
When I became engaged, love overwhelmed me. I thought love was perfect.
When I got married, love surprised me. I thought love was beautiful.
When selfishness and mundane reality intruded, love started fighting. I’ve found love is fierce.
When anniversaries started accumulating, love started changing. I’ve found love is adaptable.
When Satan whispered lies to my married soul, love started coaching. I’ve found love is truth.
When flesh started battling for me first, love corrected me. I’ve found love is disciplining.
Love is patient, love is kind, love does not envy, love does not boast, love keeps no record of wrongs.
When I struggled, love rescued me. I’ve found love is gracious.
When differing opinions offended me, love calmed me. I’ve found love is gentle.
When distance separates me from him, love calls. I’ve found love is bonding.
When I think I have figured marriage out, love laughs. I’ve found love is marvelous.
Love always hopes.
Love always trusts.
Love always perseveres.
Love never ends.
(And some of you have been hurt, and love has felt hard, and marriages have ended. Take heart, the love of God that is pure is for you, and His love is your and my ultimate story. Earthly love is to mirror God’s love — yet we live in a fallen world. As the song says, “The love of God is greater far than tongue or man can ever tell. It goes beyond the highest star and reaches to the lowest hell. Oh love of God, how rich and pure, it shall forever more endure.” May God’s love fill you in an unending, pure, truth-giving way. No matter your story, no matter your marital status, no matter your past: You are loved with an everlasting love!)