A couple of years ago I went on a date with a guy, and after talking for a few minutes he exclaimed, “My you are pure aren’t you!” (I didn’t drink, smoke, and had never had sex.) There was a mixture of delight (you know… sweet girl next door ideology), as well as annoyance in his voice. I certainly wouldn’t be doing most of what he did, or letting him do what he wanted that night! Likely from that moment he knew this was the first and last date! I certainly knew it!
And again, shortly after that, I was telling a girlfriend about my life, beliefs, and walk with Christ up to this point. We talked quite a bit. I learned that she’d had several sexual partners before coming to Christ. She looked at me in shock at one point in the conversation and said, “Wait a minute! You’re telling me you’ve never had it! You’re how old?!” After a few seconds of complete amazement she reiterated, “I don’t think I’ve ever met any virgins as old as you. I wish I would have that testimony!” (Side note: I was in my mid-twenties and I didn’t like feeling old or inexperienced! I didn’t like the whisper of satan, the subtle voice saying, “See everyone else is doing it Mary Ann… no big deal.” However, the admission of this girl that if she could do it over again, and do it my way, made me realize again the truth that the ways of God bring far greater reward than the ways of the world. Take that satan!)
So it seems I come off as either a prude or a saint. I’d like to state right out front that I also sometimes find myself placing myself into one of these two categories. Yet, for the record, I am neither. Oh I know God’s Word describes believers as saints. I’m not disputing that. Rather, I am saying that when it comes to what I do or don’t do, I can be labeled by those around me or even myself.
It fuels my determination to live a holy life when I’m admired. It burns my desire to live for God when I’m ridiculed. And the truth is, in this world there will be both on a regular basis if you chose to stand for God, regardless of the issue at stake. This is why one must make a firm decision in their minds, and choose for this day whom they will serve. I have decided to serve God, to follow after Him, to be an abnormal girl in a world saturated with sex. It is hard sometimes. Yet the reward of God’s way is great. I choose to believe that God’s standard is right, and I want His blessings in marriage.
Oh ladies, as we are labeled and defined by others, let’s not let them deter us from a Godly standard for living. His path to holiness is narrow, sometimes not as “fun” as our worldly friend’s ways, and oftentimes feels prudish. However, walking an upright life draws us closer into God’s righteous kingdom, and that is right where we need to be to live in freedom, purity, and joy!
For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say ‘No’ to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, while we wait for the blessed hope—the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good. Titus 2:11-14
Teach me, Lord, the way of your decrees, that I may follow it to the end. Give me understanding, so that I may keep your law and obey it with all my heart. Psalm 119:33-34